This one’s for the wedding planners! If you’re trying to network a little more with the vendors working at your clients’ weddings, here are the top five ways you can win me over and make me REALLY keen on working with you again!

1. Business-like is good, business-friendly is better. Adopt a warm tone when communicating with me. I know you are taking on all the bride’s headaches, but no need to boss me around like I don’t know what I’m doing. Let’s work TOGETHER.

2. If we haven’t met yet, introduce yourself when you see me. I can’t tell the difference between a planner holding an official-looking clipboard or catering manager holding an official-looking clipboard, or even sometimes the bride’s best friend holding a cheap plastic binder.  My gigantic camera, on the other hand, usually gives you a clear idea of who I am. It also makes me feel important when you take a moment to seek me out and say hello.  I also do not mind when people (clients, guests, and vendors alike) tap me on the shoulder when my eye is glued to my viewfinder and I look like I’m concentrating on something. It’s OK. You can interrupt.

3. Water, stat! I cannot even begin to tell you how impressed I am when a planner approaches me in the middle of a ridiculously frantic schedule on a hellishly hot day and asks if I would like something cold to drink.  Do I look sweaty busy? Is it hot? Am I wearing black?  Yes, I would LOVE some ice water! OMG thankyouthankyouthankyou!!

4. Food, stat! I don’t want to bug you about dinner, but 99.9% of the time I do not know when I’ll be eating or where I’m supposed to go eat. Got a moment? Come tell me. Triple bonus points if you manage to wrangle some food while the other guests are eating instead of after they’ve finished—because after they’ve finished is when I’m really supposed to go back to work!

5. Give us a shout out! We’re on Twitter and Facebook. There is time to tweet and FB before the wedding, during dinner at the wedding, and the day after the wedding. Mention us. It makes us feel important and we’ll mention (or retweet) you, too.

  • Amen. Especially #1.. It’s so frustrating when a planner comes up to you as if you have never even seen a wedding before.

  • AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN!!!!! Yayyyy! As a planner, I love that you appreciate the effort I take to make certain each vendor has everything they need to make it happen, and that we all blend together as one happy family to create the perfect wedding for your beloved brides and grooms.

    And don’t worry….I got ya covered on the vendor meals…I know catering sometimes doesn’t like it, but oh how I know that you and the DJ are back to work after dinner! I’m located in Huntington too, let’s meet for coffee soon! :)

  • Excellent post! As a planner I like networking with other vendors and seeing what I can do for them to help. I am afterall there to help the couple’s day go smoothly and if that means helping others – glad to do it. :) Happy vendors usually translate to happy clients.

  • Molly, thank you for writing this.
    It is well received and an eye opener to many, I am sure.
    I always enjoy reading your posts, and respect your professionalism.